“80% of People Quietly Despise Their Lives” ~Steve Spalding

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 We get so swept away by life and its responsibilities  that we forget to actually embrace the little wonderful  things that we have in it. We get so busy that we forget  to live the life we wished for so long and this is why we  look for different ways to escape the reality of our life  without realizing that our escapism is the actual life we  wanted to live.  We get so busy with our day-to-day  work that we leave no time for ourselves to enjoy the  opportunities that we have and others don’t. Yet, even    worse, these day-to-day necessities become routine like  activities that we eventually lose interest in because of  its repetitive nature.

 How many people out there have actually discovered  their purpose in life? Those doctors, engineers,  journalists and authors out there, are they working for  the sake of their job or do they admire what they do?  Dr. Jean Houston, a scholar, writer and philosopher  answers these questions in simple terms referring to our  current social and cultural system (Eastern and  Western) being the reason behind ensuring our basic survival and not nurturing our true aspiration. It seems that our educational system ensures creating good machine like workers that can function well enough for just basic survival. The overwhelming changes that continuously occur in our world, makes us prefer confining ourselves within a small story. In other words, people feel they aren’t good enough or they fail to see their purpose in life thus, they’re unable to live the life they want. Moreover, we carry what we were taught at home to our practical lives. In our personal community, many of us out there were not encouraged to cherish their gifted abilities such as sketching, ballet dancing, acting, making accessories etc. but we were rather guided towards having an education that leads us to a high salary and a good identity. “We simply haven’t been trained to bring the possible future into the present” concluded Dr. Houston.

Considering the latter, what can be done to start living the live we want?

First, every member of the society needs to alter their false beliefs (misconceptions) about themselves. Ask your self questions like who am i?, why do I exist? What do I like to do in my leisure time?

Second, do not constrict yourself to one thing or activity. We are born as creatures who can multitask. Therefore, do not put yourself inside an atmosphere where only one thing can be done for good. Consider the list of things that you enjoy doing, choose one of them as your life time occupation and finally use the others as leisure activities whenever possible.

Third, many people might complain that there is no time to do all what we want. However, looking at it from another perspective, we only live once and if you don’t integrate what you enjoy now in you day-to-day life you will never get the opportunity to integrate it later.

Fourth, make it a habit. Remember that the habits that you build as you grow stay with you forever. Therefore, keep what you embrace in the list of things you do daily or weekly. And keep in mind that “Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, and your values become your destiny.” Said Mahatama Ghandi.

Fifth, enjoy every fine detail in your life. You can look at the empty half of the cup, but embrace and reflect the full half as well. Cherish small things like making someone else happy, having a home to live in and an occupation to live from. Compare yourself to those who have nothing of what you have and how they are still satisfied but at the same time, learn from the mistakes and accomplishments of those who are higher and older than you.

To conclude, you can break free from that system that keeps going in circles and pulling you in. Do what you love in order to love what you do and remember that in the end, it’s not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away.